The traditional parental identifying words mom and dad are getting swamped out by same-sex parents for new gender-neutral and hybrid terms.
The world is an ever-evolving place and as LGBT and gender non-conforming individuals become more and more understood and accepted innovative and gender fluid words are being thought up in place of traditional labels.
Same-sex parents along with gender non-conforming parents are leading the charge in the new-era title change. For example, gay and lesbian parents have been known to use the new phrase “mather,” a fusion between mother and father.
In an online article by Infosurhoy titled “Same-sex parents are refusing traditional names and prefer hybrid labels such as ‘mather’,” the author mentions a study conducted by Clark University in Massachusetts that found an increasing number of gay and lesbian couples are opting at will to change the parental labels.
A study carried out by Clark University in Massachusetts found that that out of 80 participants, 20 lesbian couples and 20 gay couples, all of them chose a different name for mother and father.
The fusion of ‘mother’ and ‘father’ was one of the ways that gay people are expressing their identity as parents.
‘Mather’ was a popular mixture of mother and father while others chose nicknames like ‘Muzzie’.
Others are using ‘maddie’, a mixture of mummy and daddy, and creating nicknames for each other as a way to sidestep traditional gendered names.
The problem that some find with the title swamp is how it is explained to other children outside of the LGBT, non-conforming household. How can teachers and parents of those kids educate them on the new terminology when they themselves aren’t knowledgeable of term?
Lead researcher Abbie Goldberg said that after the recognition of same sex marriage there was ‘more willingness to push some of those boundaries’ among gay couples.
But she admitted that explaining the new names to children could be a ‘challenge’.
She said: ‘It requires a lot of explanation and clarification, maybe even pushback from schools in certain geographical contexts, less gay-affirming areas of the country, like: ‘What do you mean you go by ‘Maddie?’
‘Nobody is going to know what that means. How do we explain that to other children?’
It’s important to note that the study is in the peer review stage and thus has yet to be published.